As much as we want to protect the family, divorce happens here in Singapore. When we consider divorce, we seem to forget our vow to be together “for better or for worse”. Divorce should not be an option when we enter in a binding relationship but if it is the only solution, we cannot do anything but to consider it.
If the relationship is unhealthy, the couple should talk about it but before divorce, they have to take necessary help first. We should not give up on something without giving it a chance first. We have to know that divorce can be harmful to our financial health. Splitting is pretty expensive and the cost of living will go up when it’s all over.
In other words, divorce is a major life change just like being married. We need to endure the stress and complications if we are serious about divorce. It is indeed stressful and complicated because it involves related issues like custody of children, division of assets and maintenance. If we decided to proceed, here are some things that we have to deal:
- Lawyer: We need someone to represent our case so we have to look for a family lawyer. This is not a problem because there are many family lawyers here in Singapore that can help us. When we consider divorce, we have an idea that it might be costly so we have to prepare financially. In the event that we cannot afford a lawyer, we can apply for government’s assistance through The Legal Aid Bureau which is situated at 45 Maxwell Road, The URA Centre, East Wing.
- Prepare legal documents: When we see our lawyer, we have to bring necessary legal documents to support our claim. If we do not know how to file for divorce, our lawyer can help us and they can also prepare the legal documents on our behalf.
- Expat divorce: There is an organization here that can help expats and PRs seeking for divorce. The Association of Women for Action and Research (AWARE) offers advice for women who need it. In this case, AWARE counsellors will walk us through to the importance of finding out our rights.
According to the statistics from Population Trends, the median duration of divorcing couples in 2009 was 10 years. Furthermore, every year, the divorce rates are increasing. What does this tell us? Many people here consider divorce. This is the reason why we should strengthen our family foundations to avoid the occurrence of such. Our children will not be happy to see us part.